About Polygamy

The cliché:
Men’s view – polygamy is good, following the great Prophet Muhammad.
Women’s view – say what you want, I ain’t sharing!

Those are the normal responds you get when you talk about the ever sensitive but fun topic, polygamy. Depending on who you talked to, you can get out from it with a big slap on the face or with a big roaring laughter.

However, last night was different. Last night the table turned.

The girl said polygamy is not that bad while the guy said polygamy is not that simple. What has the world turned into?

I met a friend last night and somehow during our teh tarik session, we talked about it. She told me that growing up in the middle of ‘polygamy-tolerant’ family made her think about this topic since way back.

“It is the absolute right of a guy to marry more than one. Nothing a wife can do if the husband decides to take another wife. I can’t understand it when the wife starts ‘acting up’ because the husband married another or going to. Wouldn’t that just push her husband further away? What she should do is try to win her husband back, think about what is missing and try to fix it.”

That’s what she said to me while I was smiling and looking straight at her, trying to look for any trace of sarcasm. There was none. She was dead serious!

She continued by saying rather than the husband continues living in a sin, the wife should just let him take another wife. She also said second wives should know their place. Although they have the right to equal treatments, they can’t demand too much because they are the second wife.

Just imagine me sitting there listening to her views on the topic. If someone told me that she had said that, I would not have believed it. But she said it straight to me and like I said there was absolutely no sign of sarcasm.

They do exist, the pro- polygamy women exist! They are not a myth! What I felt last night must have been the same with what the guy who took that famous photo of bigfoot felt!

I pushed my luck and asked her since she said it’s ok for a guy to have more than one wife, is it ok for a guy to have more than one girlfriend? She smiled before telling me if the guy can handle the responsibilities and the headaches, then go ahead!!!

In case you guys out there want to get to know this lovely ‘pro-polygamy’ girl, just give me a buzz and I’ll hook you up ;)