The Art of ‘Managing Expectation’

I am smart. I have no doubt that is true.

However, I have a very bad case of inferiority complex. Something must have happened to me during my childhood because I practically have zero confidence. I’m also a lazy bum and because of that I just couldn’t care less about doing anything on my inferiority complex. My lack of confidence combined with my laziness equals me right now; quiet, shy, selfish, anti social & difficult to be with. At least that’s what I think people see me as when they meet me the first time.

How do I cope with all that? I mean no matter how bad my ‘tak kisah’ attitude is, I still need to do something with myself. For instance, how do I survive at work? Having no confidence and being lazy cannot be good for your career. I’ve found a simple way to deal with that. It wasn’t easy, as I had to think of a way that will suit my laziness. But as I said I’m smart so of course I managed to figure it out. All I do is lowering people expectation on me.

You know how we guys get a lot of credit for every little thing that we do, right? Husbands especially get it all the time from their wives. Like if we suddenly decided to do the laundry after 6 months of absolutely not touching the washing machine, we will get a statue built for us. If one day we decided to do the dishes, we will get a town named after us. So really it’s the same everywhere, lower others’ expectation and when you suddenly decide to show your true worth everyone will go gaga over you.

So yeah that’s what I do. It’s not the most dignified thing to do but it’s working so who cares. I will tell bad sad story of myself to others to win over their sympathy. I’ll get them to say “You poor thing! Now you just sit back and relax. Don’t you worry about anything because we will take care of everything for you.” So I just sit back and relax and play stupid until when I feel like it, I will show a little bit of my true worth and they will go “wow, you have truly outdone yourself! You deserve a big pat on your back.”

So take note everyone, learn to manage expectation. It is the key to eternal bliss!

Sigh…